Thursday, August 6, 2015

A Girl Goes Out Alone: A Phenomenon?

Capture from the Iranian film, A Girl Walks Home Alone At Night
This summer, something I've frequently noticed is the double standards of going out as a man, and going out as a woman in Algeria. To go out as a woman here, you are required the permission of either your parents or your husband. You must tell them who you'll go out with, where you'll go, what you'll be doing, and when you'll be back. You have to make sure what you wear isn't too provocative and won't solicit anything unwanted from men. Once you are out, you deal with staring men everywhere, and so many unsolicited catcalls, a growing problem for women all over the world. I often wonder when I'm out if so many of these men, who fail to see me as a person but rather someone they can gawk at and say obscene things to, think I exist for them. That my sole purpose in being out today, making the attempt to enjoy my day, is for them. I wonder this, because if they saw me as a 3 dimensional person, as someone who is their equal, would they think to see me as an object to catcall to and stare at?
I notice my male family members have no problem going out, and in fact, go out most of the time. They don't have to think about what they wear before going out, constantly ask permission to go out, and so on.
To be a woman in Algeria, you must be okay with being homebound. You must be okay with asking for permission from your parents or your husband while watching your brother or your cousin saunter out the door. You must be okay with being objectified while outside due to all the catcalls and disrespect.
I think, as an Algerian-American, it is not in my place to incite anything as I am, to some extent and outsider, but I hope throughout the next few years and decades, women who live in this beautiful country will finally be able to be treated with equity and have the freedom to go out when they please with whom they please, without having to ask their husbands, who should be seen as their equal, and without having their parents fear more and expect more from their daughters than their sons.